Many years ago, at a very painful time in my life, I cried out to God, “How did I ever get into this situation? I can’t believe I am in this situation. I am a Christian!”
God was honest with me. I heard Hosea 4:6 loud and clear: “My people are destroyed from lack of knowledge.” I was destroyed by a lack of knowledge of the word of God. I did not know how to apply His word to my circumstances. I was defeated and guilty of the lack.
When we suffer from a lack of knowledge of God’s word in our lives, and particularly in our marriage, it is not just us who suffer. Our families suffer, our soul suffers, our communities suffer, and our bodies and emotions suffer. The level of contentment, happiness, and intimacy in marriage are all related to our relationship with Jesus Christ, the incarnation of God’s word. There is NO WAY around it. Marriage was ordained, was designed, and is sustained by God. The world does not know this and many Christians do not believe it. It requires belief, faith, change, soul searching, understanding, action, and prayer.
How about you? Do you have a lack of knowledge of God’s word? God is waiting to teach you. Knowing God and His word are not crisis activities in your life or in your marriage! You don’t have to wait until you run out of yourself and your own problem-solving capabilities. You can have a rich relationship with God if you decide to know Him and ‘believe’ His word. It is a privilege to know God. Think of someone in your life whom it is a privilege to know. Why is it a privilege to know him or her? Perhaps the person is a solid or safe person in your life or they bless you in some way and tell you the truth. Perhaps you trust and believe in them? It’s the same with God. God also has those characteristics and more!
In the opening of his book, The Purpose Driven Life, Rick Warren writes, “It’s not about you. The purpose of your life is far greater than your own personal fulfillment, your peace of mind, or even your happiness. It’s far greater than your family, your career, or even your wildest dreams and ambitions. If you want to know why you were placed on this planet, you must begin with God. You were born by His purpose and for His purpose.”
We lack much because we think life is about us. We suffer in marriage because we think marriage is about us, too. Ouch! In order to lose your membership in the lacker club, you have to make a decision to know God, accept His Son Jesus Christ and believe His word. His word is the power source that removes our self-sufficiency and fulfills our purpose.
Many marriages survive without Christ but don’t reach their potential or have peace, safety, or meaning. It is impossible to fully love a fallible, fickle human being unconditionally without Christ in our lives, especially in today’s throwaway society.To remedy this, we must invite Jesus Christ into our hearts and marriage by admitting in our heart, mind, and soul that we are sinning against His plan and that we need Him. That’s it – he’s there! He will reveal himself to you and help you, your marriage, and family have a faith vision that will take you far beyond what you can dream in your mind or fulfill by yourself.
You will need to seek godly people who love you and can disciple you in your situation. Seek prayer partners. Find ways to study the Bible and know God personally. God’s word is accessible everywhere; it is on iPhone, iPad, iPod, radio, TV, DVD, the internet – any media that you can think of. It is easy these days to spend fifteen minutes with God. He will grow you, He will help you, and He will teach you to love the way He loves.
In this we have our greatest potential as a person, as a spouse in a marriage or as a parent with a family. You will never regret soul-searching and applying God’s word to your life and marriage. If you fail to do these things, however, at some point you will regret not doing so.
Do you need to invite Jesus Christ into your heart and marriage? What is your next step?