I have heard it said that at the end of life most people do not wish they had stayed at work longer or made more money. Of course there are different regrets that all of us may take to our grave and I’ll bet you that all of them have to do with relationships.
The question is – what message do you want your spouse and children to write on your tombstone or speak at your funeral? Have you faithfully loved God, your spouse and your children unconditionally, or are you ignoring the things that matter most for things that matter least?
The truth is relationships are hard and the marriage relationship is especially hard. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:28, “But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.”
Waiting to work on the marriage until the kids are grown is risky, and if we choose that path, we sin against God’s plan for marriage and family. Marriage is meant to bring glory to God and to raise godly children. We can’t do this if we are not modeling God’s word during the marriage. Failure to model God’s plan for marriage while our children are in our home, will also set our children up for possible disappointment or failure in their own marriage because they are likely to do what we have done.
“Things that matter most must never be at the mercy of things that matter least.” Goethe.
What are you making more important than your marriage and family?
Matthew 6:33 – But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all of these things shall be given to you as well.